Although they don't look older than when I first saw them some 20 years ago, it turns out Surya uncle and Jai aunty have been married for 21 years now.
I ask her if it becomes harder, instead of easier, to live with someone as each year goes by. She thinks about it for a second. "I think, after a few years, there comes a point where you realise, living with someone else, learning how to compromise again, attune yourself to someone else's daily wavelength, is just too much work," she tells me, with a laugh.
***
I ask him, another time, if it gets boring living with someone for so long. "Nah," he dismisses it scornfully, "we have our own lives. We have common interests so we grow together, but I have a busy, fulfilled life of my own and so does she. Aur kya chahiye?"
***
I look at these two, and friends like Inayat and I am assured that it is possible to come back to your country after living outside. To travel the world, study in a wonderful foreign country and want to return and work in your own. That there is resolution, there is will, and there is homecoming.
I ask her if it becomes harder, instead of easier, to live with someone as each year goes by. She thinks about it for a second. "I think, after a few years, there comes a point where you realise, living with someone else, learning how to compromise again, attune yourself to someone else's daily wavelength, is just too much work," she tells me, with a laugh.
***
I ask him, another time, if it gets boring living with someone for so long. "Nah," he dismisses it scornfully, "we have our own lives. We have common interests so we grow together, but I have a busy, fulfilled life of my own and so does she. Aur kya chahiye?"
***
I look at these two, and friends like Inayat and I am assured that it is possible to come back to your country after living outside. To travel the world, study in a wonderful foreign country and want to return and work in your own. That there is resolution, there is will, and there is homecoming.
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